In episode 3 of The Bridal Wellness Podcast, I talked briefly about having a glass half full mindset. I realized this is an important discussion point for brides, purely because in planning a wedding there is a natural tendency to think that anything that can go wrong will. Rain on your wedding day, babies crying during the ceremony, dress malfunctions, a vendor that doesn't show, or a person arriving who was clearly not on the guest list are top contenders for negative thinking during your engagement. This blog post is to serve as a reminder (and wakeup call) to all brides that it is extremely important to be that glass half full bride.
Think the best will happen, believe the best will happen, and you will have the happiest engagement and wedding experience ever.
Why the reinforcement on this? I say being a glass half full bride is necessary based on personal experience. When my own sister was engaged, her negative thinking in the weeks leading up to her wedding made it hard to keep the joy alive. She personally attacked and made threats about many close family members (including myself) due to her stress. While she acted pleasantly on the day itself, her negative thinking continued past her wedding day and caused all around her to walk on eggshells and live in fear.
It is important to remember that when you come across people like this in life, we cannot change this type of thinking no matter how hard we try. If our happiness only upsets other people, then we must continue to be the very best version of ourselves and not let negative thinking and fear keep us from having what should be one of the best year(s) of our life.
Your engagement should be filled with lots of love, happy memories, and many half full glasses of champagne. Thus, when you begin to notice negative self-talk entering your thoughts, keep the following in mind.
- Take a deep breath.
- Change the thought from what if it goes wrong to what if it goes right?
- If you are still worried something may go wrong, make a plan B. Don’t worry, prepare.
- Remove toxic people from your life if being around them is not conducive to your own mental health and inner peace.
- Unexpected things happen all the time. Something you may not prepare for will occur close to or on your wedding day. Brush it aside and enjoy your day.
Mindset is everything. If you are a happy person with a positive mindset, you will be happy with any outcome. The pandemic has taught us all that our plans may not always go as we wanted, but at the end of the day you will be married to the love of your life no matter who was there, what date it ended up being held on, or where it was.
Every day of your engagement may not be filled with champagne and roses, but you will have a lifetime with your soulmate to make each day better than the last.
If you have questions, then leave a comment below or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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